I get it, you’ve been through the ringer with your last awful relationship and now you have a fear of dating.
The thought of getting back in the game and taking more emotional bruises makes you tired or even a little sick.
You value your freedom and you are totally enjoying it!
You have a fear of dating again, but something is missing
But there is a little tug at the back of your heart. You really would like to have a partner that will cherish you, grow with you, work with you and be all in on the relationship.
You are just afraid you will end up with someone like your last partner, or worse!
I don’t blame you one bit!
This is what I want you to know
It may feel like this is not within your control.
But it IS!
When you understand WHY you have chosen the partners that you have, then you can work to shift it.
Then your relationship ‘compass’ won’t be doing the picking for you.
What has been happening for you is you have picked partners based on old (hidden) beliefs, outdated (or missing) love ‘rules’, old protections and old fears.
Your relationship experience will be on par with what you feel you have the right to experience.
Can you just love yourself more?
What I’m talking about is NOT the same as self-worth.
Your relationship ‘rights’ were developed during your early existence and you likely won’t even be aware of them. (to read more about this check out this article)
So to shift your dating pattern, you will have to become aware of what you can’t see!
That’s not always an easy task.
Seeing your own blind spots can be challenging.
Often it takes someone else to be a ‘mirror’ for us so that we can see.
Unfortunately, if we aren’t paying attention, we miss it.
That is why you will be given a mirror over and over again until you do see it.
Relationships serve as that mirror.
How to make the shift
To find what needs shifting takes a little bit of detective work.
The key to shifting your dating pattern lies in two places:
- your early relationship with your parents,
- and all of the relationships you have had thus far.
Examining those will give you the clues you are looking for.
If you don’t take the time to examine them, you will certainly be given chance after chance with other relationships to finally see it.
In my opinion, that is the painful and time consuming way!
It doesn’t have to be, though!
The easy way
The easiest and fastest way to make the shift you need in order to experience true, all-in love is to find someone that is good at seeing patterns and can work with you to shift them.
The way I see it, you have 3 options:
- Take yourself out of the game and stop dating
- Keep doing the trial and error dating
- Get help to see your blind spots and shift them
The choice is yours of course. There are thousands of coaches that can help you do this.
Myself included!
To find out more about what I offer, check out my program page.
